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The secret to increasing and lasting influence

                             
                             
 
               
 
The greatest mystery of influence lies in how it increases and lasts only when applied unselfishly and altruistically.
 
Whereas it seems that manipulation, tricks and techniques, "politics", short term power fights and corruption all pay off, the paradigm of "seeds and fruits" always provides the same answer: Everything we do backfires. The recoil may not be instant as with a gun, but what we do always comes back at us eventually.
 
H. David Burton recently shared a beautiful quote, which really nails it:
       
  Fireman helping old lady, Seminole USA.                          
     
 

"The things you do for yourself are gone when you're gone, but the things that you do for others remain as your legacy."

 
     

Of course, nothing "disappears" - not even what we do "for ourselves", but the things we do for others seem to give added influential powers. My long time partner and friend, Bård Stranheim, lives by a wonderful principle, which he phrases like this:

     
 

"It's amazing how much can be accomplished when you don't need the honor and credit yourself."

 
     

In today's business environment there seems to be an increasing belief that "graciously caring for others" is not compatible with success. Our research clearly shows the opposite; that those individuals and companies who aim for both short term and long term success need the above stated value firmly rooted in their system, otherwise they'll always fail long term and quite frequently short term, too.

Simply put, influence increases when we apply it to make the world "a better place" and decreases when what we do is centered around our own selfish interests. You may call it religious. I call it a durable principle and indisputable fact. If we apply it, then it works in our favor - if we don't it works against us. Such is the true source and nature of real influence.

 
 

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...everyone wants more influence for varying reasons. They just don't know it yet.

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Someone once said to me: "There is no such thing as the perfect sale." I disagree. I very much disagree!

It reminds me of a conversation I had a long time ago. One of my CEO's said to me: "If the customer happily signed the contract then you've done your job. You exceeded your budget - you should be happy." But I wasn't.

On these pages I'll make it my mission to tell you what kind of sale does make me happy. I also invite you to help me get that insight - how selling should be - by telling me what you think.

Thank you for helping out ;-)

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